Fight with the Dentist…

You all know how afraid I am of docs and dentists right?!  If not the word terrified doesn’t come close. Late this afternoon, I had a huge fight with the secretary at my soon to be former dentists office.

They did a root canal a year ago. I’ve had nothing but pain, inflammation and most likely infection since. I’ve not been able to chew on that side at all. I went back to this dentist three times with this issue. They never did a thing to fix it.

Today I made an apt. with a new dentist, but I decided to call the old one and let them know what I’m dealing with. Hence the fight with the secretary. Holy cow did she judge me, blame me, and tell me that I was being unreasonable. She told me that I should have called sooner if I had an issue. I responded with that fact that I had been back three times with said issue. Not only that, but would she go back to a place who caused her pain and never fixed it??

I never wanted to talk to the secretary in the first place, I had asked to talk to the dentist himself and I told her so. Those that know me know, I don’t fight like this. I was told over and over that he was busy with patients to which I responded with, I know have him call me when he’s not.

Well after the fight with the secretary suddenly the dentist was freed up and gave me a call. Longer story short. He’s talked me into going to see him tonight again. He doesn’t want me to see another dentist until he’s had one more look. Quite frankly I think that he will just rub it in my face that I’m wrong and he’s right.

I’m beyond triggered and I’m petrified. Now, not only do I have to go to the dentist but one which I’ve fought with. Both he and his staff. Talk about uncomfortable to say the least.

There’s not enough time to fill you in on all the mistakes they’ve made, and tried to blame me for and tell me that they gave me freebies out of the kindness of their hearts. The freebies were because of mistakes they made.

I will tell you that I went through one whole apt. with them thinking that I was someone else. When I told the dentist that today, he basically “pft” stuff happens.

Anyway forgive me for venting and for any mistakes. I took some ativan because I’m so not okay right now. I’m very triggered.  Me taking ativan during the day is saying a lot. I never use it for anything other than the odd night that I can’t sleep.

I gotta go back and read what I just typed…

Okay now that I know what I just typed, I will tell you that Hubby is coming to pick me up and take me there. I’m not going alone for two reasons one, I’m not in good shape and two, I need a witness to any further conversations with them.

As it stands right now, I have an apt. with a new dentist on Wed.

I’ll let you all know how it goes if you care too.

There is hope.

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47 responses to “Fight with the Dentist…

  1. URRG! Dentist….dont like going either..hope it works out

    • No not fun at all as you know. :(

      I’m back. They treated me well. I got a free apt. free scan, free xray. They said the only thing that would fix the problem is a crown which of course I have to pay for. They gave me an estimate. The price is better by half than I expected.

      I’m going to the new dentist on Wed. for an unbiased second opinion. Then based on what they say and price, I’ll decide what I’m going to do and where.

  2. It appears your history with dentists parallels that of Old Man Jack’s… but there has to be other dentists. I’ve been with my dentist since 1980.

    I hope this follow-up went well!

    • Oh no Jack had struggles with them too? You’re lucky to have one that long!

      Thank you. I’m back. They treated me well. I got a free apt. free scan, free xray. They said the only thing that would fix the problem is a crown which of course I have to pay for. They gave me an estimate. The price is better by half than I expected.

      I’m going to the new dentist on Wed. for an unbiased second opinion. Then based on what they say and price, I’ll decide what I’m going to do and where.

  3. Remember the ways you’ve been standing up for yourself recently, and draw on that. Don’t let him browbeat you into thinking this is your fault, and if he gives you any crap, don’t get in his chair.
    Hang in there. You can do this.

    • Thank you Guaps!. I’m back. They treated me well. I got a free apt. free scan, free xray. They said the only thing that would fix the problem is a crown which of course I have to pay for. They gave me an estimate. The price is better by half than I expected.

      I’m going to the new dentist on Wed. for an unbiased second opinion. Then based on what they say and price, I’ll decide what I’m going to do and where.

  4. Guap said what I was going to…you’ve got this!

    • Thank you. I’m back. They treated me well. I got a free apt. free scan, free xray. They said the only thing that would fix the problem is a crown which of course I have to pay for. They gave me an estimate. The price is better by half than I expected.

      I’m going to the new dentist on Wed. for an unbiased second opinion. Then based on what they say and price, I’ll decide what I’m going to do and where.

  5. I’ll be thinking of you…. You seem like you know what you want to say… so if it starts to go in a way you don’t like… simply walk out… Sorry you’re going through this. Dentists are definitely not my favourite people either at the best of times… Diane

    • Thank you Diane. They treated me better than I expected when I was there. They said the only thing that can remedy the problem is a crown. The gave me a free xray, head scan and apt. They will not pay for the crown.

      I’m going to the new dentist on Wed. I won’t tell him what the old one’s findings are. I want an unbiased second opinion. Then I will go from there on what I’m going to do and where. Also depending on price

  6. Good luck Huck!! Good for you for speaking up for yourself, making a safe plan to take Hubby, and for addressing what YOU need. !! good for you!

  7. Wow, you really don’t need a dental nightmare on top of everything!!! I’m so glad that you were treated fairly well and hope that the appointment on Wed is a good one. Sending thoughts of calmness and strength…

  8. Eva

    Zoe, what you described is so typical of dentists. You absolutely did the right thing. Email me any time if I can help. :)

    • Thank you so much for letting me know that. I think I will email you if you’re okay with it!! xo

      This is the plan:
      They treated me well. I got a free apt. free scan, free xray. They said the only thing that would fix the problem is a crown which of course I have to pay for. They gave me an estimate. The price is better by half than I expected.

      I’m going to the new dentist on Wed. for an unbiased second opinion. Then based on what they say and price, I’ll decide what I’m going to do from there and where.

      • Eva

        Email me anytime with dental questions, my friend. Anytime at all.
        One thing is definitely true about root canals – patients absolutely need a crown asap following root canals. I’ll send you a layman’s link later on tonight about the importance of that procedure. Today’s my 12 hour day. :(

      • Thank you very much Eva! Oh man 12 hours that’s a long day!

  9. Bring a Taser… or maybe an electric cattle prod…

  10. Sounds a terrifying experience ! I empathize you because I have the same kind of phobia!

    • It wasn’t fun. They treated me well when I went back last night. I’m still going to go to the new one to get a second unbiased opinion.

      I wish I didn’t have to go at all ever. lol

      Sorry you struggle this way too. I explain to dentists about my fear but I tell them it’s not just a fear of dentists it’s ptsd and touch of any kind is an issue. Most don’t get that. We’ll see about this new one. :)

  11. Dentists… My first dentist didn’t like children, and forced my mouth open by putting a metal device between my upper and lower row of teeth, so I couldn’t close my mouth. He said he didn’t want me to disturb his job. I thought I would die in both pain from the drilling and from choking on the water in my mouth. I’ve had trouble with dentists since then, but some years ago I met a dentist who is so careful and so sweet that all my fears are gone and I like going to the dentist now.

    Like with any experiences in life, gentle and respectful goes a long way. <3

    • I’m so sorry that happened to you. That’s awful.

      What a gift to find a kind compassionate dentist that helped with dissipating you fear! Kind and respectful does go a long way mixed with compassion.

  12. I hope it went well. *hugs*

    • Thank you! They treated me well. I got a free apt. free scan, free xray. They said the only thing that would fix the problem is a crown which of course I have to pay for. They gave me an estimate. The price is better by half than I expected.

      I’m going to the new dentist on Wed. for an unbiased second opinion. Then based on what they say and price, I’ll decide what I’m going to do and where.
      How are you doing??

      • I’m glad it turned out well. Dentists are, by far, my least favorite of all medical professionals.

        I’m surviving, mostly little bits at a time right now. I’ll come through this, it’ll probably just take a little time. I keep thinking I should post something but then I can’t bring myself to do it. Haven’t really even posted anything on FB in awhile. Just don’t feel like there’s a lot available to share right now, ya know?

      • Sending you support MM! Don’t post until you’re ready. You’ll know in your knower when you are. It’s okay. If you need to chat ever you know how to reach me right? Hugs to you xo

  13. You and Old Man Jack are peas in a pod… or is it in a dentist’s chair?! Happy 4th!

    • ahaha! I was back there yesterday to a great dentist actually. Now I will be getting needed work done in the hospital in stead. That’s good thing with my situation

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